What hair product gives the same effect as gel without hardening your hair?

Now my hair likes to be difficult but I like it to be soft. Is there something I can use to replace gel as my main hair product that wil give me the same result?What hair product gives the same effect as gel without hardening your hair?
try spiking glue or wax or whatever it comes in like a container jar thing. like got2b or something my cousin uses it a lot.

http://www.got2b.no/index.php?id=249%26amp;proWhat hair product gives the same effect as gel without hardening your hair?
mouse i use herbal essences it works great for me!!!





heres the web site



http://www.herbalessences.com/us/collect
lime or lemon